Devotional Experience for Marriage
The devotional experience is designed to help Christian couples spend quality time considering the scriptural, psychological, and relational dynamics necessary for a godly marriage that continually reflects the light of Christ.
It is our hope that through this devotional experience that you will grow your marriage ten-fold and that your love will radiate throughout your family, church, and community.
Each month a 4-week devotional exercise will be presented to grow your spiritual intimacy. You may also click here to order the full 53-page digital booklet with lessons from March-December.
Help couples understand the biblical role of the Christian wife to create a godly marriage and home.
Just this week, I (Laura) had the fortune of attending Michelle Obama’s tour spotlighting her New York Times bestseller, titled Becoming. The former First Lady of the United States, has started a mini-movement around this idea of “becoming”. In a real sense, it has spurred my own thinking about the tenets of my own journey of becoming the woman, the wife, the mother, and the leader that God has for me. This month I would like to share what God has shown me about myself in the hope that it inspires your own becoming process.
My husband Matt and I (Laura) have been on a journey, together and with God. Ours has been glorious and gritty, full of treasure as well as painful loss, packed (and unpacked, and repacked again) with redemption and provision. And God has walked so presently with us in spite of it all. We've been married 19 years and in that time, have had to move twelve times. We've grieved and re-gained, prayed desperately and gripped on to faith in God's promises, and found God faithful, everywhere we've set our feet.
In these most recent years, since landing in what we hope is our 'forever' city of Seattle, we've finally felt freedom to put down roots. But, over the past year, we found ourselves mired in anxiety of a seller-friendly real estate market where finding a simple home to buy so we could feel settled was so much harder than I ever imagined with our limited budget. In that time of searching and longing, waiting with uncertainty, we fervently prayed for God to call this journey of faithful wandering 'good' (and over!).
I, personally, was praying for a new story, and also a new name, as God has consistently re-named biblical wanderers when they are ending one season and beginning to walk into their call and identity in a new. Just like Abram became Abraham in the Old Testament and Saul became Paul in the New Testament, I was praying that God would give me a new name to help me make sense of all we'd been through and all the places we'd been. Who am I becoming? Who are we as a married couple with children becoming?
In this time of longing for a home, but not being able to get one, one day (like a lightning bolt), I felt God say, "I have called you home." I stopped, without much reflection, and replied "Yeah, yeah, God, I know... you are calling us to heaven, and that's our home. But I'm praying for a home here on earth!" And He said, patiently, "I have called you home." Again, I retorted, ”Yes, I know, God. I heard you... we have a home in heaven. I get it... but when are we ever going to get to land in a real home, in the here, the now, before our kids grow too old to put down roots?"
God said, "No. No Laura. I have called you 'Home'.
Finally, I understood: He had re-named me, ”Home." He had called me to become home regardless of the status of a physical space to call our own. To BECOME home to my husband, to BECOME home to our kids, to BECOME home to our neighbors, BECOME home for His Spirit, to BECOME home to the wandering and displaced, to BECOME home for His kingdom on earth.
Through this revelation, I have come to think about the many ways in which God is calling us wives to become “Home” in their own sphere of influence. This is not a role in that it doesn't mean we're solely staying at home full-time to live into this—though that may be the choice of some. Rather, we are all called to make a space within yourself and your life called "home" and to sacrificially offer it to yourself, to the Spirit, to your husband, to your children, and to your community. It requires being a clean vessel for the Spirit to flow out and through. It means we must "work" at becoming Home.
God has called us “home". But, what does that demand of you because this calling "home" is so much deeper than sparkle, glitz, decor.
Becoming "home" requires submitting to the word of God, to being renewed and cleansed by its living power. It means submitting to the honor and cherishing of our husbands. It requires a clean heart and one that is attuned to listening to the prompts of the Spirit as its source of strength and power. It means honoring God's perfect, clean creation in ourselves (your heart, body, and the dreams within you) that He longs to call "Home".
Becoming “home” is to channel the warmth of God’s presence. And, Home is not harshness. Home is not unclean. Home is not critical. Home is not self-centered. Home is not dismissive or disrespectful. Home is not hurtful or violent. Home is not harsh or cutting. Home is not envious or too proud to say "I'm sorry", or to serve. Home is not controlling or demanding. Home is not strife or division.
Home is humble. Home is pure. Home is holy, clean, and set apart. Home is washed in prayer. Home is being at rest. Home is peace. Home pursues truth. Home seeks to honor your husband. Home builds up and encourages. Home is safe. Home is not perfection, but grace. Home is more than a house. Home is the kind of love that glows with a God-like glory that surpasses what's humanly possible. Home invites the pure and perfect Spirit to abide with us, in this place.
God has called you to come home to yourself, to become home to your beloveds. God is calling your marriage to become Home for His Kingdom. God is cleansing the places He will call His home, on this earth, and where we will be forever home with Him.
While considering each week’s questions, remember that a transformed mind is a mind that thinks like Christ.
Featured Scripture for Weeks 1 and 2:
(Titus 2:4-5, ESV) Train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
How is God inviting you to come 'home' to yourself, to His spirit within you, and to create some quiet space to listen to where and how He is calling you to become 'home' for others.
How is God calling you to become clean and purified (of selfishness, control, worry, criticism) to become 'home' for your husband?
Featured Scripture for Weeks 3 and 4:
(1 Peter 3:3-5, ESV) Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves.
How does becoming "home" to God's spirit require you to go deeper into pursuing "cleanness and purity" rather than simply decorating the surface? How are you attending to your "inner self", and your "unfading beauty"? What are the things about you that you hope will be unfading, and beautiful in God's sight?
How is God calling you to come a clean "Home" for His Spirit to dwell?